Sunday, April 10, 2016

Turned Upside Down!

We’ve all heard the quotes, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.  When life throws you punches, don’t give up!”  We often see other people’s issues and problems but, we never think it’s going to happen to us.  Life has a way of turning upside down.  It can force you to put certain things in perspective! I’ve always been a family girl.  I love my husband and kids.  We go on trips, to the park, have family night.  I’ve always been a forgiver when it comes to my family despite how difficult it can be at times.  My husband and I are forgivers…because we know that God has forgiven us.  This is even more so important, when life throws us lemons and punches.  Life can simply change at a blink of an eye. 

I find myself now struggling to wrap my mind around the diagnosis that was given to my mother.  My mother and I have always had a strange relationship, or for some, the typical mother daughter relationship.  We would argue and make back up.  Sometimes, it would take a little longer to make up, depending on the circumstances.  Despite the rough patches, the little girl in me thought my parents would live forever (my heart smiles).  I know they are both alive now, but one isn’t feeling so well. 

Some Christian friends are saying, “Don’t claim the diagnosis!” While others are saying, “This is the opportunity for God’s glory to shine through healing.”  Despite what anyone says, our life is forever changed.  I find myself asking, “Is it better to watch your parent slowly die or is it better to be taken by surprise?”  I know neither is good.  My husband and cousin both said, they would rather be in my situation.  I have time to say, I love you.  I have time to take her to get her nails done, laugh, play, and cry together. 

I keep telling myself that we are all dying each day.  So, her situation is no different.  No one really knows the day or the hour of the coming of the Lord. I’m learning how to find comfort in that.  Is that even possible?  I believe in the afterlife.  Our afterlife is supposed to be even better than this life.  It is supposed to have mansions, no pain, and no sorrow.  This is what we as Christians believe God for, eternal life.  Can’t help but ask, why is it so hard to let go of the people in this world?  Especially, if we know that heaven will eventually be our home…. I’m still meditating on that question.  

As of right now, I’m still hopeful and prayerful.  I’m taking each day one day at a time, being mindful of self-care, time, and relationships.  My advice to you is to live each day to its fullest. Enjoy one another.   If individuals aren’t adding to your life LET THEM GO!  Reach for the stars.  Leave a legacy…people will always remember you for what you stand for.